What are you so afraid of? Here’s my thoughts on what and why we are afraid of change….
it’s because we allow society to define us. WHAT? Yes.
If we try to change something about ourselves from the inside out, well then we will have to explain to others why did are trying to make a change.
Now think about working on changing that.
Right away, did you think of 1,000,000,000 ways not to do change or do what you want to do? I bet you did! 🙂
If you didn’t then why the hell haven’t you done it yet?
Here’s a very personal example of how society worked on defining me and here’s what I did about it and will do about it.
I guess this story is my way of telling the world to keep your opinions to yourself and stop putting crap into other people’s space. It’s not your space to take!
OK, to my story. I spent a weekend in NH about 3 years ago, it was summer and we were at a lovely place on the water, the sun was out, etc…you get the picture.
At that time I was 132 lbs 5′ 7″ and about 18% body fat. BOOM. What does that mean? It means I ate right for my goals, it means I woke up at 4am every day to exercise my heart, my body and my soul. It means I took time to take care of myself. Also, I got so many “wrong” comments and assumptions thrown at me at that height, weight and being that lean….ugh. Does this happen to you, do people try to define you without knowing you? Do you define others consciously or unconsciously?
Back to the place on the water….I was checking in and wearing a v-neck sleeveless workout top to keep cool and comfortable. Just as the Innkeeper was beginning to show us around, he stated – STATED – not asked, not a conversation with me, he stated, “oh, you must be a swimmer.”
Honestly, I didn’t even know that was directed toward me. Here’s why……
1. He put his definition of what [he thought] I do into the space in the room.
2. He put his definition of how I look into the space in the room.
3. He didn’t ask me directly.
4. He didn’t ask period.
5. I CAN’T EVEN SWIM!!!! So why on Earth would I think that he was “talking” to me. He clearly defined me in his mind already as a swimmer.
What a dumbass!
My response when I realized he was “space talking” to me…. “No.”
Him: (….waiting for me to say more….awkward 3-5 seconds go by…for him it was awkward, not me. I was quite confident with my response of no.) “oh.”
And then we moved on to the task at hand, showed me around and get me to my room, thank you.
Do you get frustrated when people define you? There was no way I was going into the description of, I get up at 4am, I eat for my goals, I…blah, blah, blah…you know why? He wasn’t worth it because he already had a story made up, a definition of me. When you define those around you knowing them or not, you screw with their world and space. Knock it off!
Ask people, “Hi there, you are very fit and I am curious how you manage to get it done, do you have a minute to tell me about it?”
I could have been a damn ballerina….
Fitness and nutrition is NOT about how you look, (It’s so sad that society surely defines it that way though) it’s about how you manage your body, mind, soul, chemical and hormonal balances, feeding routines, emotions, health and wellness.
If I had to change again, I would do it because now, I am not afraid to tell people that they are incorrect about who I am, what I do, why I do it, especially when they respect my space and don’t define me. You don’t respect my space, you don’t get my respect.
So, why are you afraid to change when it comes to your fitness, nutrition, health and wellness?
Are people defining you and making you feel like they’re taking your space?
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